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	SELF --- SELF-CONFIDENCE --- SELF-CONTROL SELF-DECEPTION --- SELF-DEFENSE SELF-DESTRUCTION --- SELF-DETERMINATION SELF-DISCIPLINE --- SELF-ESTEEM . . . SELF see "INDIVIDUALITY" for related links My one regret in life is that I am not someone else. --Woody Allen [Allen Stewart Konigsberg] (1935— ) American actor, screenwriter, and director. In Eric Lax _Woody Allen and his Comedy_ [1975]. I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. --Aristotle (384—322 B.C.) Greek philosopher. In Thomas Benfield Harbottle _Dictionary of Quotations_, p. 325 [1906]. The image of myself which I try to create in my own mind in order that I may love myself is very different from the image which I try to create in the minds of others in order that they may love me. --W.H. [Wystan Hugh] Auden (1907—1973) English-born poet and man of letters. _The Dyer's Hand_ [1963] "Hic et Ille" One may understand the cosmos, but never the ego; the self is more distant than any star. --G.K. (Gilbert Keith) Chesterton (1874—1936) English essayist, novelist, and poet. _Orthodoxy_ [1908], "The Logic of Elfland" What the superior man seeks is in himself. What the mean man seeks is in others. --Confucius (551—479 B.C.) K'ung Ch'iu, Chinese philosopher. Say nothing of yourself, either good, bad, or indifferent; nothing good, for that is vanity; nothing bad, for that is affectation; nothing indifferent, for that is silly. --Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749—1832) German poet, novelist, and playwright. When all is summed up, a man never speaks of himself without loss; his accusations of himself are always believed, his praises never. --Michel Eyquem de Montaigne (1533—1592) French moralist and essayist. There is an eagle in me that wants to soar and there is also a hippopotamus in me that wants to wallow in the mud. --Carl Sandburg (1878—1967) American poet. This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. --William Shakespeare (1564—1616) English dramatist. _Hamlet_ [1601] Search thine own heart. What paineth thee in others in thyself may be. --John Greenleaf Whittier (1807—1892) American poet. _The Chapel of the Hermits_ [1853] Each had his past shut in him like the leaves of a book known to him by heart; and his friends could only read the title. --Virginia Woolf (1882—1941) English novelist. _Jacob's Room_ [1922] SELF-CONFIDENCE . . see "EMOTIONS & FEELINGS" for related links Doubt whom you will, but never yourself. --Christian Nestell Bovee (1820—1904) American writer. Those who believe they are exclusively in the right are generally those who achieve something. --Aldous Huxley (1894—1963) English novelist {grandson of T.H. Huxley}. _Proper Studies_ [1927] "Note on Dogma" If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowances for their doubting too. . . . --Rudyard Kipling (1865—1936) English writer and poet. "If" in _Rewards and Fairies_ [1910] You must believe in yourself, my son, or no one else will believe in you, Be self-confident, self- reliant, and even if you don't make it, you will know you have done your best. Now, go to it. --Mary Hardy MacArthur, advice to her son Douglas on the morning of his West Point examination, quoted in Douglas MacArthur _Reminiscences_ [1964]. They can do all because they think they can. --Virgil (70—19 B.C.) Roman poet. _Aeneid_ Do not attempt to do a thing unless you are sure of yourself; but do not relinquish it because someone else is not sure of you. --Stewart E White (1873—1946) American author. ----- diffident (adjective) ['di-fi-dênt] Shy, bashful, or hesitant as a result of a lack of self-confidence. SELF-CONTROL . . see: "ANGER" see: "CAUTION" see: "PRUDENCE" see "CHARACTER" for other related links see "SUCCESS" for other related links No man can humiliate me or disturb me. I won't let him. --Bernard Baruch (1870-1965) American financier. Those two great medicines: Diet and Self-Control. --Max Bircher [Maximilian Oskar Bircher] (1867-1939) Swiss physician. In Gordon Young, _Doctors Without Drugs_ [1962]. Self-command is the main elegance. --Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) American philosopher and poet. No man is free who is not master of himself. --Epictetus (55-135) Greek philosopher. In James Laughlin Hughes _Froebel's Educational Laws for All Teachers_, p. 177 [1897]. Anyone who angers you, conquers you. --Sister Elizabeth Kenny (1880-1952) Australian Bush nurse. He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself. --Philip Massinger (1583-1640) English Jacobean and Caroline playwright. _The Bondman_ [1623] How shall I be able to rule over others, that have not full power and command of myself? --François Rabelais (c. 1494- c. 1553] French humanist, satirist, and physician. _Works_, bk. I, ch. iii I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. --Theodore Isaac Rubin (1923- ) American psychiatrist and author. The greatest remedy for anger is delay. --Lucius Annaeus Seneca (4 B.C.- 65 A.D.) Roman philosopher and poet. _On Anger_ {De Ira} In William Braxton _On Desire:Why We Want What We Want_[2005], p. 243. Self-control is the best of all vows. Sweetness of speech, benevolence, absence of malice, anger, and hatred, forgiveness, patience, forbearance, non- violence, modesty, courtesy, good behaviour, Truth, straight-forwardness, and firmness - the combination of all these constitutes self-control. --Swami Sivananda (1887-1963) Hindu leader. Educate your children to self-control, to the habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil tendencies subject to an upright and reasoning will, and you have done much to abolish misery from their future lives and crimes from society. --Daniel Webster (1782-1852) American orator and politician. SELF-DECEPTION . . see "DECEPTION" see: "ILLUSIONS" Self-deception once yielded to, all other deceptions follow naturally more and more. --Thomas Carlyle (1795—1881) Scottish historian and political philosopher. "The Hero as King" in _On Heroes, Hero-Worship, and the Heroic in History_ [1841] Nothing is as easy as deceiving yourself, for what you wish you readily believe. --Demosthenes (c.364—c.322 B.C.) Athenian orator and statesman. _Olynthica_ Lying to ourselves is more deeply ingrained than lying to others. --Fyodor Dostoyevsky (1821—1881), Russian novelist, journalist, and short story writer. The first principle is that you must not fool yourself — and you are the easiest person to fool. --Richard Feynman (1918—1988) American theoretical physicist. Dishonest men conceal their faults from themselves as well as others; honest men know and confess them. --François de La Rochefoucauld (1613—1680) French classical author. The great deceivers of the world begin by deceiving themselves. They have to, or they wouldn't be so good at it. --Jean Molière [Jean Baptiste Poquelin] (1622—1673) French comic dramatist. _Le Malade imaginaire_ [1673] The ingenuity of self-deception is inexhaustible. --Hannah More (1745—1833) English religious writer. The most common sort of lie is the one uttered to one's self. --Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844—1900) German classical scholar, philosopher, and critic of culture. The worst of all deceptions is self-deception. --Plato (427?—347 B.C.) Greek philosopher. _Cratylus_ This above all, to thine own self be true, And it must follow as the night the day Thou canst not then be false to any man. --William Shakespeare (1564—1616) English dramatist. _Hamlet_ [1601], I, iii, 78 SELF-DEFENSE . . see "WAR & PEACE" for related links After a shooting spree, they always want to take the guns away from the people who didn't do it. I sure as hell wouldn't want to live in a society where the only people allowed guns are the police and the military. --William S. Burroughs (1914-1997) American author associated with the Beat Generation, "The War Universe" Taped conversation published in _Grand Street_ # 37 - I'm not sure people understood a lot of what I was writing about. I don't even know if I would understand them if I believed everything that has been written about them by imbeciles who wouldn't know the first thing about writing songs. I've always said the organized media propagated me as something I never pretended to be . . . all this spokesman of conscience thing. A lot of my songs were definitely misinterpreted by people who didn't know any better, and it goes on today. Q: Give me an example of a song that has been widely misinterpreted. A: Take "Masters of War." Every time I sing it, someone writes that it's an antiwar song. But there's no antiwar sentiment in that song. I'm not a pacifist. I don't think I've ever been one. If you look closely at the song, it's about what Eisenhower was saying about the dangers of the military-industrial complex in this country. I believe strongly in everyone's right to defend themselves by every means necessary. --Bob Dylan [Robert Allen Zimmerman] (1941- ), American singer and songwriter - Your enemy is never a villain in his own eyes. Keep this in mind; it may offer a way to make him your friend. If not, you can kill him without hate - and quickly. --Robert A(nson) Heinlein (1907-1988) American science-fiction writer, _Time Enough for Love_ [1973] ^^ In 1978 Sussex police launched a hunt for a 'six-foot, dark- haired youth of about 20' who failed to mug a five-foot, 74-year-old grandmother. The youth sprang upon Mrs Ethel West while she was walking through Chichester Cathedral cloisters. The result should have been a foregone conclusion. Surprisingly, however, when Mrs West grabbed the mugger's wrist, he cried, 'Oh God! Oh no! Stop!' Encouraged by these pleas, she put him in an arm lock at which the mugger cried, "Oh no! Oh Christ!" and ran away. 'If I hadn't been carrying my shopping, I would really have put him on his back,' said Mrs West who took a course in judo when younger. 'Before my husband died I used to practise throwing him at Christmas,' she explained. _The Folio Book of Humorous Anecdotes_ Introduced by Edward Leeson [2005], "Age -- Mostly Old" ^^ SELF-DESTRUCTION . . see "FAILURE" for related links Yet is every man his greatest enemy, and, as it were, his own executioner. --Sir Thomas Browne (1605-1682) English writer and physician. An Eastern proverb says that calamities sent by heaven may be avoided but from those we bring on ourselves there is no escape. --Sir John Lubbock (1834-1913) The First Lord and Baron Avebury who was a British banker, politician, and archaeologist. You can outdistance that which is running after you, but not what is running inside you. --Rwandan Proverb SELF-DETERMINATION . . see "FREEDOM" for related links You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. --Theodor Seuss Geisel [Dr. Seuss] (1904-1991) American writer and illustrator of children's books A wise man shall overrule his stars, and have a greater influence upon his own content than all the constellations and planets of the firmament. --Jeremy Taylor (1613-1667) English Anglican clergyman and writer SELF-DISCIPLINE . . see: "CHARACTER" see: "MODERATION" see: "SELF-CONTROL" (above) If you can win complete mastery over self, you will easily master all else. To triumph over self is the perfect victory. --Thomas a' Kempis (1380-1471) German ascetical writer, _Imitation of Christ_ [c.1420] Make it a point to do something every day that you don't want to do. This is the golden rule for acquiring the habit of doing your duty without pain. --Mark Twain [Samuel Langhorne Clemens] (1835-1910) American humorist, novelist, journalist, and river pilot _Following the Equator_ [1897] SELF-ESTEEM . . see "EMOTIONS & FEELINGS" for related links see "INDIVIDUALITY" for related links see also: "SELF-RESPECT" I'm the greatest. --Muhammad Ali (Cassius Marcellus Clay) (1942— ) American heavyweight boxer. Catch-phrase used from 1962, in "Louisville Times" [16 November 1962]. Anything you can do, I can do better, I can do anything better than you. --Irving Berlin (1888—1989) American songwriter. "Anything You Can Do" [1946 song] Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. --Bible "Proverbs" 16:18 That's it baby, when you've got it, flaunt it. --Mel Brooks (1926— ) American actor, writer, and director. "The Producers" [1968 film] He who sets a very high value upon himself has the less need to be esteemed by others. --Samuel Butler (1612—1680) English poet and satirist. Deliver me from . . . him who acquires self- esteem by finding fault with others. --Kahlil Gibran (1883—1931) Lebanese poet. You must stir it and stump it, And blow your own trumpet, Or trust me, you haven't a chance. --W. S. Gilbert (1836—1911) English writer of comic and satirical verse. "Ruddigore" [1887] A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company. --Charles Evans Hughes (1862—1948) American professor of law, politician, and Chief Justice of the Supreme Court [1930—1941]. A man who finds no satisfaction in himself seeks for it in vain elsewhere. --François de La Rochefoucauld (1613—1680) French classical author. You must believe in yourself, my son, or no one else will believe in you, Be self-confident, self- reliant, and even if you don't make it, you will know you have done your best. Now, go to it. --Mary Hardy MacArthur, advice to her son Douglas on the morning of his West Point examination, quoted in Douglas MacArthur _Reminiscences_ [1964]. Our mistreatment was just not right, and I was tired of it. (On her refusal [1 December 1955] to surrender her seat on a segregated bus in Alabama to a white man.) --Rosa Parks (1913—2005) Figure in the American civil rights movement. He fell in love with himself at first sight and it is a passion to which he has always remained faithful. --Anthony Powell (1905—2000) English novelist. _The Acceptance World_ [1955] No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. --Eleanor Roosevelt (1884—1962) American human rights activist, diplomat, and wife of U.S. President Franklin Delano Roosevelt. _This Is My Story_ [1937] It is easy — terribly easy — to shake a man's faith in himself. To take advantage of that to break a man's spirit is devil's work. --George Bernard Shaw (1856—1950) Irish comic dramatist, literary critic, Socialist propagandist, and winner of the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1925 [he didn't accept it.] _Candida_ [1898] I have often wished I had time to cultivate modesty. . . But I am too busy thinking about myself. --Dame Edith Sitwell (1887—1964) British poet and critic. 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