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. . . see: "PSYCHIATRY" see: "PEOPLE" for other related links Marx and Freud are the two great destroyers of Christian civilization, the first replacing the gospel of love by the gospel of hate, the other undermining the essential concept of human responsibility. --Malcolm Muggeridge (19031990) British writer, broadcaster, and journalist. _My Life in Pictures_, p. 94 [1987]   FRIENDS / FRIENDSHIP . . [QUOTES FOLLOW LINKS] see: ACQUAINTANCE COMPANIONSHIP, (THE) COMPANY (YOU KEEP) DEDICATION FAMILIARITY GIFTS GREETINGS GUESTS HAPPINESS HOSPITALITY HUGS IRISH TOASTS/BLESSINGS KNOWING (SOMEONE) LOYALTY MEETING PLEASING (OTHERS) RECOGNITION RELATIONSHIPS REUNIONS SECRETS TRUST WELCOME One friend in a lifetime is much; two are many; three are hardly possible. Friendship needs a certain parallelism of life, a community of thought, a rivalry of aim. --Henry Brooks Adams (18381918) American historian & man of letters. _The Education of Henry Adams_, ch. 20 [1907] A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him. --Ζsop (c. 620 B.C.c. 560 B.C.) (Thought to be a legendary figure.) _Ζsop Fables_, "The Hound and the Hare" I keep my friends as misers do their treasure, because, of all the things granted us by wisdom, none is greater or better than friendship. --Pietro Aretino (14921556) Italian poet, prose writer, and dramatist. Attributed in Pascal Covici (ed.) _The Works of Aretino_ [1926]. - My friends! There are no friends. --Aristotle (384322 B.C.) Greek philosopher. Attributed in "The Monthly Traveller" [Boston, August 1831]. Friends are much better tried in bad fortune than in good. --Aristotle (384322 B.C.) Greek philosopher. Attributed in _Mental Recreation Or, Select Maxims_, p. 102 [Longman & Rees, London, 1831]. He who hath many friends, hath none. --Aristotle (384322 B.C.) Greek philosopher. Quoted in James Comper Gray _The Biblical Museum_, p. 46 [1880]. - I may be wrong, but I have never found deserting friends conciliates enemies. --Margot Asquith [Emma Alice Margaret Asquith] (18641945) British political hostess. "Lay Sermons" [1927] - Alonso of Aragon was wont to say in commendation of age, that age appears to be best in four things old wood best to burn, old wine to drink, old friends to trust, and old authors to read. --Francis Bacon (15611626) English philosopher and essayist. _Apothegms_, # 97 [1624] The best receipt best to work and best to take is the admonition of a friend. --Francis Bacon (15611626) English philosopher and essayist. Attributed in Maturin M. Ballou _Edge-Tools of Speech_, p. 84 [1886]. - With regard to the choice of friends, there is little to say; for a friend is never chosen. A secret sympathy, the attraction of a thousand nameless qualities; a charm in the expression of the countenance, even in the voice, or the manner, a similarity of circumstances, these are the things that begin attachment. --Mrs. Anna Letitia Barbauld [nιe Aikin] (17431825) English poet. "On Friendship" in _The Works of Anna Lζtitia Barbauld_, V. II [1826]. It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend of his faults. If you are angry with a man, or hate him, it is not hard to go to him and stab him with words; but so to love a man that you cannot bear to see the stain of sin upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that *is* friendship. --Henry Ward Beecher (18131887) American Congregational minister; brother of Harriet Beecher Stowe, son of Lyman Beecher. In Henry Ward Beecher and Edna Dean Proctor, _Life Thoughts: Gathered From the Extemporaneous Discourses of Henry Ward Beecher_, p. 90 [1858]. From quiet homes and first beginning, Out to the undiscovered ends, There's nothing worth the wear of winning, But laughter and the love of friends. --Hilaire Belloc (18701953) _Verses_ [1910], "Dedicatory Ode" The essence of a perfect friendship is that each friend reveals himself utterly to the other, flings aside his reserves and shows himself for what he truly is. --Robert Hugh Benson (18711914) English novelist who was a son of the Archbishop of Canterbury and became a Roman Catholic priest. _The Friendship of Christ_, ch. II [1912] - Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. --Bible "John" 15:13 He that is not with me is against me. --Bible "Matthew" 12:30 & "Luke" 11:23 Wealth maketh many friends. --Bible "Proverbs" 19:4 Forsake not an old friend; for the new is not comparable to him: a new friend is as new wine; when it is old, thou shalt drink it with pleasure. --Bible "Ecclesiasticus" 9:10 - - Acquaintance, n. A person whom we know well enough to borrow from, but not well enough to lend to. A degree of friendship called slight when its object is poor or obscure, and intimate when he is rich or famous. --Ambrose Bierce (18421914) American newspaperman, wit, and satirist. _The Cynic's Word Book_ [1906] (Retitled in 1911 as _The Devil's Dictionary_.) Friendless, adj. Having no favors to bestow. Destitute of fortune. Addicted to utterance of truth and common sense. --Ambrose Bierce (18421914) American newspaperman, wit, and satirist. _The Cynic's Word Book_ [1906] (Retitled in 1911 as _The Devil's Dictionary_.) Friendship, n. A ship big enough to carry two in fair weather, but only one in foul. --Ambrose Bierce (18421914) American newspaperman, wit, and satirist. _The Cynic's Word Book_ [1906] (Retitled in 1911 as _The Devil's Dictionary_.) - False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the instant we walk into the shade. --Christian Nestell Bovee (18201904) American writer. Quoted in _Gems of Thought_ (Comp. by Charles Northend) [1888]. The place where two friends first met is sacred to them all through their friendship all the more sacred as their friendship deepens and grows old. --Phillips Brooks (18351893) American religious leader. Sermon "The Young and Old Christian" A good friend who points out mistakes and imperfections and rebukes evil is to be more respected than though he revealed a secret of hidden treasure. --Buddha [Gautama] (c. 6th4th century B.C.) Founder of Buddhism. _The Teaching of Buddha, The Buddhist Bible_ [trans. into English 1934] Whatever the number of a man's friends, there will be times in his life when he has one too few; but if he has only one enemy, he is lucky indeed if he has not one too many. --Edward Bulwer-Lytton (18031873) British novelist, playwright, and politician. _What Will He Do With It?_, bk. IX, ch. III. (Under the name of Pisistratus Caxton the book was published in Blackwood's Magazine from June 1857 to January 1859.) Let no man grumble when his friends fall off, As they will do like leaves at the first breeze; When your affairs come round, one way or t' other, Go to the coffee house, and take another. --Lord Byron [George Gordon Byron] (17881824) English Romantic poet and satirist. _Don Juan_, canto XIV, XLVIII [1823] But of all plagues, good Heaven, they wrath can send, Save, save, oh! save me from the Candid Friend! --George Canning (17701827) British statesman; prime minister [1827]. "New Morality" in _Anti-Jacobin_ [9 July 1798]. (wikiquote) - You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. --Dale Carnegie (18881955) American writer and lecturer. _How to Win Friends and Influence People_ [1936] In a Nutshell: Six ways to Make People Like You Principle 1: Become generally interested in other people. Principle 2: Smile. Principle 3: Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person's interests. Principle 6: Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely. --Dale Carnegie (18881955) American writer and lecturer. _How to Win Friends and Influence People_ [1936] - Agreement in likes and dislikes this, and this only, is what constitutes true friendship. --Cataline (10862 B.C.) Roman politician. In Sallust (86?34? B.C.) _The War with Cataline_. The best way to find out if you have any friends is to go broke. The ones that hang on longest are your friends. I don't mean the ones that hang on forever. There aren't any of those. --Raymond Chandler (18881959) American writer of detective fiction. Letter to Carl Brandt [18 April 1949]. Great merit, or great failings, will make you respected or despised; but trifles, little attentions, mere nothings, either done or neglected, will make you either liked or disliked, in the general run of the world. Examine yourself, why you like such and such people, and dislike such and such others, and you will find that those different sentiments proceed from very slight causes. --Lord Chesterfield [Philip Dormer Stanhope] (16941773) British writer and politician. _Letter to his Son_ [20 July 1749]. Treat your friends as you do your pictures, and place them in their best light. --Jennie Jerome Churchill (18541921) American-born British mother of Winston Churchill. "Friendship", _Small Talk on Big Subjects_ [1916] Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by the doubling of our joy and dividing our of grief. --Marcus Tullius Cicero (10643 BC) Roman orator and statesman. (Attributed to Cicero in the 68th issue of _The Spectator_.) An old man passed me on the street today; I thought I knew him but I couldn't say. I stopped to think if I could place his frame. When he tipped his hat I knew his name. Hello old friend, It's really good to see you once again. Hello old friend, It's really good to see you once again. --Eric Clapton (b. 1945) English singer and guitarist. "Hello Old Friend" [song] - Alas! they had been friends in youth; But whispering tongues can poison truth. --Samuel Taylor Coleridge (17721834) English poet, critic, and philosopher. _Christabel_, pt. II [1800] Friends should be weighed, not told; who boasts to have won a multitude of friends has never had one. --Samuel Taylor Coleridge (17721834) English poet, critic, and philosopher. In Maturin M. Ballou _Treasury of Thought_ p. 192 [15th ed. 1894]. - In prosperity our friends know us; In adversity we know our friends. --J. Churton Collins (18481908) British author, critic, and scholar. Quoted in "The English Review" [1914]. - An act by which we make one friend and one enemy is a losing game, because revenge is a much stronger principle than gratitude. --C.C. Colton (17801832) English clergyman and writer. _Lacon: or, Many Things in Few Words_, XCVIII [1820] True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until it be lost. --C.C. Colton (17801832) English clergyman and writer. _Lacon: or, Many Things in Few Words_, "Reflections", III [1821 ed.] If you want enemies, excel others; if you want friends, let others excel you. --C.C. Colton (17801832) English clergyman and writer. _Lacon: or, Many Things in Few Words_, CCLXXV [1821 ed.] Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship never. --C.C. Colton (17801832) English clergyman and writer. Attributed in James Wood _Dictionary of Quotations from Ancient and Modern English and Foreign Sources_, p. 108 [1899]. - - Have no friends not equal to yourself. --Confucius (551479 B.C.) K'ung Ch'iu, Chinese philosopher. _The Confucian Analects_ There are three friendships which are advantageous, and three which are injurious. Friendship with the upright; friendship with the sincere; and friendship with the man of much observation; these are advantages. Friendship with the man of specious airs; friendship with the insinuatingly soft; and friendship with the glib-tongued; these are injurious. --Confucius (551479 B.C.) K'ung Ch'iu, Chinese philosopher. _Analects_, xvi, c.500 B.C., as quoted in from H.L. Mencken's _Dictionary of Quotations_. - We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends. --Cosimo I de' Medici (15191574) Duke of Florence [1537-1574]. Attributed in "Journal of the American Institute" [October 1835]. I would not enter on my list of friends, (Though graced with polish'd manner and fine sense, Yet wanting sensibility) the man Who needlessly sets foot upon a worm. --William Cowper (17311800) English poet and hymnodist. _The Task_, bk. vi [1785] Oh, the comfort the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. --Dinah Mulock Craik (18261887) English writer and poet. _A Life for a Life_, ch. 16 [1859] Fate chooses our relatives, we choose our friends. --Jacques Delille (17381813) French poet. "Malheur et Pitiι", canto I [1803] Love your enemies, just in case your friends turn out to be bunch of bastards. --attributed to R.A. Dickson To find a friend one must close one eye. To keep him two. --Norman Douglas (18681952) Austrian-born British novelist and essayist. _Almanac_ [1941] - You got a lot of nerve To say you were my friend When I was down You just stood there grinning You got a lot of nerve To say you got a helping hand to lend You just want to be on The side that's winning. --Bob Dylan [Robert Allen Zimmerman] (b. 1941) American singer and songwriter. "Positively 4th Street" [1965 song] - Animals are such agreeable friends they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms. --George Eliot [Mary Ann Evans] (18191880) English novelist. _Scenes of Clerical Life_, ch. 7 [1857] (Published anonymously in Blackwood's Magazine) - It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. --Ralph Waldo Emerson (18031882) American philosopher and poet. Entry of 31 August 1838, quoted in Joel Porte _Emerson in His Journals_ [1982]. We walk alone in the world. Friends, such as we desire, are dreams and fables. --Ralph Waldo Emerson (18031882) American philosopher and poet. _Essays_, First Series [1841], "Friendship" The only way to have a friend is to be one. --Ralph Waldo Emerson (18031882) American philosopher and poet. _Essays_, First Series [1841], "Friendship" A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud. --Ralph Waldo Emerson (18031882) American philosopher and poet. _Essays_, First Series [1841], "Friendship" Better be a nettle in the side of your friend than his echo. --Ralph Waldo Emerson (18031882) American philosopher and poet. _Essays_, First Series [1841], "Friendship" - In prosperity it is very easy to find a friend; but in adversity it is the most difficult of all things. --Epictetus (55135) Greek philosopher. _Fragments_ CXXVII [Rick Blaine (Humphrey Bogart) speaking:] Louie, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship. --"Casablanca" [1942 film] Screenplay by Julius J. Epstein, Philip G. Epstein, and Howard Koch. - There are three faithful friends: an old wife, an old dog, and ready money. --Benjamin Franklin (17061790) American politician, inventor, and scientist. _Poor Richard's Almanack_ [June 1738] 'Tis great Confidence in a Friend to tell him your Faults, greater to tell him his. --Benjamin Franklin (17061790) American politician, inventor, and scientist. _Poor Richard's Almanack [August 1751] Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing. --Benjamin Franklin (17061790) American politician, inventor, and scientist. _Poor Richard's Almanack_, Pub. by U.S.C. Publishing Co. [1914]. - - Be assured those will be thy worst enemies, not to whom thou hast done evil, but who have done evil to thee. And those will be thy best Friends not to whom thou hast done good, but who have done good to thee. --Thomas Fuller (16541734) English writer and physician. Comp., _Introductio ad Prudentiam_ [1731] There is a scarcity of friendship, but not of friends. --Thomas Fuller (16541734) English writer and physician. Comp., _Gnomologia: Adages and Proverbs_ [1732] Make not a bosom friend of a melancholy soul: he'll be sure to aggravate thy adversity and lessen thy prosperity. He goes always heavy loaded; and thou must bear half. He is never in a good humor; and may easily get into a bad one, and fall out with thee. --Thomas Fuller (16541734) English writer and physician. Quoted in James Comper Gray _The Biblical Museum_, vol. 4, p. 297 [5 vol., 1872]. Purchase no friends by gifts; when thou ceasest to give such will cease to love. --Thomas Fuller (16541734) English writer and physician. Attributed in _Day's Collacon: An Encyclopaedia Of Prose Quotations_, p. 305 [1884]. - - 'Tis thus that on the choice of friends Our good or evil name depends. --John Gay (16851732) English poet and dramatist. _Fables_, Pt. I "The Old Woman and Her Cats" [1727] An open foe may prove a curse, But a pretended friend is worse. --John Gay (16851732) English poet and dramatist. _Fables_ [1727] "The Shepherd's Dog and the Wolf" - You may forget the one with whom you have laughed, but never the one with whom you have wept. --Kahlil Gibran (18831931) Lebanese poet. _Sand and Foam_ [1926] - Never have a companion who casts you in the shade. --Baltasar Graciαn (16011658) Spanish Jesuit philosopher. _The Art of Worldly Wisdom_ [1647] True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. --Baltasar Graciαn (16011658) Spanish Jesuit philosopher. _The Art of Worldly Wisdom_ [1647] A wise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from his friends. --Baltasar Graciαn (16011658) Spanish Jesuit philosopher. _The Art of Worldly Wisdom_ [1647] There is no wilderness like a life without friends; friendship multiplies blessings and minimizes misfortunes; it is a unique remedy against adversity, and a balm to the soul. --attributed to Baltasar Graciαn (16011658) Spanish Jesuit philosopher. - The glory of Friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his Friendship. --Edwin Osgood Grover (18701965) American publisher and educator. Attributing himself in _From Friend to Friend: A Partnership in Friendship_ [1916 ed., orig. pub. 1913]. - Friendship is cemented by interest, vanity, or the want of amusement: it seldom implies esteem, or even mutual regard. --William Hazlitt (17781830) English essayist. _The Round Table_ "Characteristics" CCCCXII [1817] The silence of a friend commonly amounts to treachery. His not daring to say anything in our behalf implies a tacit censure. --William Hazlitt (17781830) English essayist. _Characteristics in the Manner of Rochefoucault's Maxims_, XV [1823] - ^ Heinrich Heine (17971856) German poet. Heine died in poverty, deserted by his friends. The sole person to attend his deathbed in his squalid Parisian garret was the composer Berlioz, 'I always thought you were an original, Berlioz,' observed the dying man. --_Bartlett's Book of Anecdotes_, edited by Clifton Fadiman and Andrι Bernard [2000 ed.] ^ I decided to stop drinking with creeps. I decided to drink only with friends. I've lost 30 pounds. --Ernest Hemingway (18891961) American novelist. Quoted in "American Way" (magazine) [August 1974]. There is no friend like an old friend Who has shared our morning days, No greeting like his welcome, No homage like his praise. --Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. (18411935) Justice of the United States Supreme Court, legal historian, and philosopher. "No Time Like The Old Time" - Probably no man ever had a friend he did not dislike a little; we are all so constituted by nature no one can possibly entirely approve of us. --Edgar Watson Howe (18541937) American journalist and author. _The Indignations of E.W. Howe_ [1933] Don't abuse your friends and expect them to consider it criticism. --attributed to Edgar Watson Howe (18541937) American journalist and author. - Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you. --Elbert Hubbard (18591915) American editor, publisher, and author who died in the sinking of the "Lusitania". _A Thousand and One Epigrams_ p. 88 [1911] My father always used to say that when you die, if you've got five real friends, then you've had a great life. --Lee Iacocca (b. 1924) American automobile executive. _Iacocca: An Autobiography_ [1984] (Written with William Novak) - There are good ships and there are wood ships, And ships that sail the sea. But the best ships are friendships, And may they always be. --Irish toast May the roof above us never fall in, And may friends gathered below never fall out. --Irish toast - When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends. --Japanese proverb An injured friend is the bitterest of foes. --Thomas Jefferson (17431826) American statesman and president [18011809]. "French Treaties Opinion" vii. 618. The friendship that can cease has never been real. --Saint Jerome (c.340420?) Translator of the Bible from Greek and Hebrew into Latin. _Letter 3_ My life is spent in a perpetual alternation between two rhythms, the rhythm of attracting people for fear I may be lonely, and the rhythm of trying to get rid of them because I know that I am bored. --C.E.M. Joad (18911953) English philosopher. In "Observer" [12 Demember 1948]. - If a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man, Sir, should keep his friendship in constant repair. --Samuel Johnson (17091784) English poet, critic, and lexicographer. 1755 remark to Sir Joshua Reynolds, quoted in James Boswell _Life of Samuel Johnson_ [1791]. To let friendship die away by negligence and silence, is certainly not wise. It is voluntarily to throw away one of the greatest comforts of this weary pilgrimage. --Samuel Johnson (17091784) English poet, critic, and lexicographer. Entry for 20 March 1782 in James Boswell _Life of Samuel Johnson_ [1791]. - In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. --attributed to Martin Luther King, Jr. (19291968) American civil rights leader. [Friends are] God's apology for relations. --Hugh Kingsmill (18891949) English writer. In Michael Holroyd _The Best of Hugh Kingsmill_ [1970]. Nothing is more dangerous than a friend without discretion; even a prudent enemy is preferable. --Jean de La Fontaine (16211695) French poet. _Fables_, bk VIII, no. 10 [16681679] - In the adversity of our best friends we often find something which does not displease us. --Franηois de La Rochefoucauld (16131680) French classical author. _Maxims_, # 99 [1665] It is more disgraceful to distrust than to be deceived by our friends. --Franηois de La Rochefoucauld (16131680) French classical author. _Reflections; or, Sentences and Moral Maxims_ [1678] What makes us like new acquaintances is not so much the weariness we have of the old ones or the pleasure of changing, as the disgust of not being admired enough by those who know us too well, and the hope of being more admired by those who do not know us as well. --Franηois de La Rochefoucauld (16131680) French classical author. _Reflections; or, Sentences and Moral Maxims_, # 178 [1678] - I have had playmates, I have had companions; In my days of childhood, in my joyful school days All, all are gone, the old familiar faces. --Charles Lamb (17751834) English essayist. _Old Familiar Faces_ [1798] No friendship is so cordial or so delicious as that of girl for girl; no hatred so intense and immovable as that of woman for woman. --Walter Savage Landor (17751864) English poet, essayist, and critic. _Imaginary Conversations_ [18241853] Depend on no man, on no friend, but him who can depend on himself. --Johann Kaspar Lavater (17411801) Swiss writer, Protestant pastor, and founder of physiognomics. _Aphorisms on Man_ [1788] I'm a controversial figure. My friends either dislike me or hate me. --Oscar Levant (19061972) American pianist and actor. Quoted in the introduction to Artemus Ward _Artemus Ward, His Book_ [1964 ed.]. - Never, never pin your whole faith on any human being; not if he is the best and wisest in the whole world. There are lots of nice things you can do with sand, but do not try building a house on it. --C.S. [Clive Staples] Lewis (18981963) British scholar and novelist. _Mere Christianity_, bk. 4, ch. 7 [1952] Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.' --C.S. [Clive Staples] Lewis (18981963) British scholar and novelist. _The Four Loves_ [1960] - Stand with anybody that stands *right*. Stand will him while he is right and *part* with him when he goes wrong. --Abraham Lincoln (18091865) American Republican statesman, President [18611865]. Speech on the Kansas-Nebraska Act, [16 October 1854]. We spake of many a vanished scene, Of what we once had thought and said, Of what had been, and might have been, And who was changed, and who was dead; And all that fills the hearts of friends, When first they feel, with secret pain, Their lives thenceforth have separate ends, And never can be one again. --Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (18071882) American poet. "The Fire of Drift-Wood", l. 13 in _The Seaside and the Fireside_ [1850]. There is nothing we like to see so much as the gleam of pleasure in a person's eye when he feels that we have sympathized with him, understood him, interested ourself in his welfare. At these moments something fine and spiritual passes between two friends. These moments are the moments worth living. --Don Marquis (18781937) American poet and journalist. _Prefaces_ [1919] "Preface To a Memorandum Book" - It's no good trying to keep up old friendships. It's painful for both sides. The fact is, one grows out of people, and the only thing is to face it. --W. Somerset Maugham (18741965) English novelist, playwright, and short-story writer. _Cakes and Ale_ [1930] When you choose your friends, don't be short-changed by choosing personality over character. --attributed to W. Somerset Maugham (18741965) English novelist, playwright, and short-story writer. - No love, no friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever. --attributed to Franηois Mauriac (18851970) French poet, novelist, and dramatist. I am persuaded that he who is capable of being a bitter enemy can never possess the necessary virtues that constitute a true friend. --William Melmoth (17101799) English author. _Fitzosborne's Letters, on Several Subjects_ [7th ed. 1769, pub. 1742] [When informed his next-door neighbor, Holly Lahti, had won a $190 million dollar lottery:] I want to go over there and be her friend now. --Eric Miller Quoted in _Las Vegas Review Journal_ [13 January 2011]. Money couldn't buy friends, but you got a better class of enemy. --Spike [Terence Alan] Milligan (19182002) Irish novelist, poet, musician, and comedian. _Puckoon_, ch. 6 [1963] Birds of a feather flock together. --John Minsheu (1559/601627) English linguist and lexicographer. _A Spanish Grammar_ [1599] Men use care in purchasing a horse, and are neglectful in choosing friends. --John Muir (18381914) Scottish-born naturalist who was largely responsible for the creation of Sequoia and Yosemite national parks. Quoted in Arthur Gray (ed.) _Toasts and Tributes: A Happy Book of Good Cheer_ [1904]. Senescence begins And middle age ends The day your descendents Outnumber your friends. --Ogden Nash (19021971) American writer of humorous poetry. "Crossing The Border" If you have a suffering friend, be a resting-place for his suffering, but a resting-place like a hard bed, a camp-bed: thus you will serve him best. --Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (18441900) German classical scholar, philosopher, and critic of culture. "Of the Compassionate" in _Thus Spoke Zarathustra_ [1892]. - Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born. --Anaοs Nin (19031977) French-born American writer. _The Diary of Anaοs Nin_ vol II [1967], [entry of March 1937.] What I cannot love, I overlook. Is that real friendship? --Anaοs Nin (19031977) French-born American writer. "San Francisco" _The Diary of Anaοs Nin_ [Written 19441947 & first published in 1966] - When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. --Henri Nouwen (19321996) Dutch Catholic priest and writer. _Out of Solitude_ [1974] Be true to your word and your work and your friend. --John Boyle O'Reilly (18441890) Irish-born poet and journalist. "Rules of the Road" in _The Life of John Boyle OReilly_ by James Jeffrey Roche [1891]. As long as you are fortunate you will have many friends, but if the times become cloudy you will be alone. --Ovid [Publius Ovidius Naso] (43 B.C.18 A.D.) Roman poet. "Tristium" I. 9. 5. Four be the things I am wiser to know: Idleness, sorrow, a friend, and a foe. Four be the things I'd been better without: Love, curiosity, freckles, and doubt. Three be the things I shall never attain: Envy, content, and sufficient champagne. Three be the things I shall have till I die: Laughter and hope and a sock in the eye. --Dorothy Parker (18931967) American critic and humorist. "Inventory" [1926] I lay it down as a fact that if all men knew what others say of them, there would not be four friends in the world. --Blaise Pascal (16231662) French mathematician, physicist, and moralist. _Pensιes_ ("Thoughts"), no. 646 [1658] Often the most loving thing we can do when a friend is in pain is to share the pain to be there even when we have nothing to offer except our presence and even when being there is painful to ourselves. --Scott Peck (19362005) American author. _The Different Drum_, p. 97 [1987] Love is friendship set on fire. --David Graham Phillips _The Husband's Story: A Novel_ [1910] Also attributed to Caroline Russell Bispham in Mollie Stanley- Wrench (ed.) _The Lyceum Book of Verse_ [1931], and to Jeremy Taylor in "Reader's Digest" [1944]. If you lend a person any money, it becomes lost for any purpose as one's own. When you ask for it back again, you may find a friend made an enemy by your kindness. If you begin to press still further, either you must part with that which you have intrusted, or else you must lose that friend. --Titus Maccius Plautus (254184 BC) Roman comic dramatist. _Trinummus_, IV, 4 Prosperity is no just scale; adversity is the only balance to weigh friends. --Plutarch (A.D. 46?119?) Greek philosopher and biographer. Attributed in Watson Adams _The Rule of Life: or a Collection of Select Moral Sentences_, p. 79 [1834]. The bonds that unite another person to ourself exist only in our mind. Memory as it grows fainter relaxes them, and notwithstanding the illusion by which we would fain be cheated and with which, out of love, friendship, politeness, deference, duty, we cheat other people we exist alone. Man is the only creature that cannot emerge from himself, that knows his fellows only in himself; when he aserts the contrary he is lying. --Marcel Proust (18711922) French novelist. _Remembrance of Things Past_ [19131927] "The Sweet Cheat Gone" Prosperity makes friends; adversity tries them. --Publilius Syrus (8543 B.C.) Latin writer of mimes who was originally a slave. _Maxims_ True friendship is never serene. --Marie de Rabutin-Chantal, Marquise de Sιvignι (16261696) French writer whose letters constitute one of the most celebrated collections of epistolary writing. _Lettres. A Madama de Grignan_ [10 September 1671] May the hinges of friendship never rust, or the wings of love lose a feather. --Edward Bannerman Ramsey (17931872) [Dean of the University of Edinburgh]. _Reminiscences of Scottish Life: A Toast_ In time of prosperity friends will be plenty. In time of adversity not one among twenty. --John Ray (16271705) English naturalist and botanist. _Comp., A Collection of English Proverbs_ p. 11 [1678] We learn our virtues from the bosom friends who love us; our faults from the enemy who hates us. We cannot easily discover our real form from a friend. He is a mirror on which the warmth of our breath impedes the clearness of the reflection. --Jean Paul Richter (17631825) German novelist. Quoted in Maturin M. Ballou _Treasury of Thought_ p. 190 [15th ed. 1894]. It is said that friendship between women is only a suspension of hostilities. --Antoine de Rivarol (17531801) French man of letters. Quoted in Maturin M. Ballou _Notable Thoughts about Women_ p. 294 [1882]. My friends have failed one by one, Middle-aged, young, and old, Till the ghosts were warmer to me Than my friends that had grown cold. --Christina Rossetti [pseud. Ellen Alleyne] (18301894) English poet. _A Chilly Night_, st. 2 [1856] It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends. --J.K. Rowling (b. 1966) Scottish novelist. _Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone_ [1997] What became of the friends I had With whom I was always so close And loved so dearly? [...] Friendship is dead: They were friends who go with the wind, And the wind was blowing at my door. --Rutebeuf (12451285) French poet. "La Complainte Rutebeuf" - A friend whom you have been gaining during your whole life, you ought not to be displeased with in a moment. A stone is many years becoming a ruby; take care that you do not destroy it in an instant against another stone. --Sa'di [Muslih-uddin] (c. 12131292) Iranian poet. _The Gulistan, or Rose Garden_, Ch. 8 "Rules for Conduct in Life" [1258] Whosoever formeth an intimacy with the enemies of his friends, does so to injure the latter. O wise man! wash your hands of that friend who associates with your enemies. --Sa'di [Muslih-uddin] (c. 11841291?) Iranian poet. _The Gulistan, or Rose Garden_, ch. VIII "Rules for Conduct in Life" [1258] - Six years have already passed since my friend went away from me ... If I try to describe him here, it is to make sure that I shall not forget him. To forget a friend is sad. Not everyone has had a friend. --Antoine de Saint-Exupιry (19001944) French novelist. _The Little Prince_ [1944] If in this troubled world of ours I still must linger on, My only friend shall be the moon, Which on my sadness shone, When other friends were gone. --Emperor Sanjo (9761017) The 67th emperor of Japan. Poem, after 1016; William N. Porter (trans.) _A Hundred Verses from Old Japan_p. 68 [1979]. Friendship is almost always the union of a part of one mind with a part of another; people are friends in spots. --George Santayana (18631952) Spanish-born philosopher and critic. _Soliloquies in England_ [1922] Old friends are best. King James us'd to call for his Old Shoes, they were easiest for his Feet. --John Selden (15841654) English historian. _Table Talk_ [1689] - We are advertis'd by our loving friends. --William Shakespeare (15641616) English dramatist. _King Henry VI_, 3rd part, V, iii [1592] He that is thy friend indeed He will help thee in thy need. --William Shakespeare (15641616) English dramatist. "The Passionate Pilgrim", st. XVIII [1599] Et tu, Brute? (You too, Brutus?) --William Shakespeare (15641616) English dramatist. _Julius Caesar_, III, i [1599] - For in religion as in friendship, they who profess most are ever the least sincere. --Richard Brinsley Sheridan (17511816) Anglo-Irish dramatist. _The Duenna_, III, iii [1775] Grant stood by me when I was crazy, and I stood by him when he was drunk, and now we stand by each other. --William Tecumseh Sherman (18201891) American Union general. In William F. G. Shanks _Personal Recollections of Distinguished Generals_, p. 36 [1866]. Think not those faithful who praise all thy words and actions, but those who kindly reprove thy faults. --Socrates (470?399 B.C.) Greek philosopher. Quoted in Henry Southgate (ed.) _Many Thoughts of Many Minds_ p. 496 [1862, 3rd edition]. Chide a friend in private and praise him in public. --Solon (630?560? B.C.) Athenian lawmaker and Lyric poet. Quoted in William Meade Pegram _Past-Times_, p. 140 [1909]. People ... young, and raw, and soft-natured, think it an easy thing to gain love, and reckon their own friendship a sure price of another man's. But when experience shall have once opened their eyes and showed them the hardness of most hearts, the hollowness of others, and the baseness and ingratitude of almost all, they will then find that a friend is the gift of God; and that he only, who made hearts, can unite them. --Bishop Robert South (16341716) English theologian and author. _Sermons Preached Upon Several Occasions_ "Of the Love of Christ to his Disciples" Sermom XIV, Vol. I [1866 ed.] So long as we love we serve; so long as we are loved by others, I might almost say that we are indispensable; and no man is useless while he has a friend. --Robert Louis Stevenson (18501894) Scottish essayist, poet, and novelist. "Lay Morals" in _The Works of Robert Louis Stevenson_[Edinburgh ed., 1896]. Never speak ill of yourself; your friends will always say enough on that subject. --Charles Maurice de Talleyrand-Pιrigord (17541838) French statesman. Attributed in Herbert Victor Prochnow _Speaker's Handbook of Epigrams and Witticisms_[1955]. He makes no friend who never made a foe. --Alfred, Lord Tennyson (18091892) English poet. _Idylls of the King_, l. 1109 Choose a good disagreeable friend, if you be wise a surly, steady, economical, rigid fellow. --William Makepeace Thackeray (18111863) English novelist. _Sketches and Travels in London_ "On Friendship" I had two friends. The one offered me friendship on such terms that I could not accept it without a sense of degradation. He would not meet me on equal terms, but only be to some extend my patron. He would not come to see me, but was hurt if I did not visit him. He would not readily accept a favor, but would gladly confer one. --Henry David Thoreau (18171862) American essayist, poet, and practical philosopher. _Journal_ [4 March 1856] - Around the corner I have a friend, In this great city that has no end, Yet the days go by and weeks rush on, And before I know it, a year is gone. And I never see my old friends face, For life is a swift and terrible race, He knows I like him just as well, As in the days when I rang his bell. And he rang mine. We were younger then, And now we are busy, tired men. Tired with playing a foolish game, Tired with trying to make a name. "Tommorow" I say "I will call on Jim Just to show that I'm thinking of him." But tommorow comes and tommorow goes, And distance between us grows and grows. Around the corner! yet miles away, "Here's a telegram sir" "Jim died today." And that's what we get and deserve in the end. Around the corner, a vanished friend. --Charles Hanson Towne (18771947) American poet. "Around the Corner" in _Grand Lodge Bulletin_ [January 1918]. - - The holy passion of Friendship is of so sweet and steady and loyal and enduring a nature that it will last through a whole lifetime, if not asked to lend money. --Mark Twain [Samuel Langhorne Clemens] (18351910) American humorist, novelist, journalist, and river pilot. _Pudd'nhead Wilson_ [1894] ch. 7 epigraph: "Pudd'nhead Wilson's Calendar" Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life. --Mark Twain [Samuel Langhorne Clemens] (18351910) American humorist, novelist, journalist, and river pilot. In _Mark Twain: Collected Tales, Sketches, Speeches, and Essays 1891-1910_, p. 943 [Library of America, 1992], as quoted in _When in Doubt, Tell the Truth, and other quotations from Mark Twain_, collected by Brian Collins [1996]. - When a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies. --Gore Vidal (b. 1925) American writer. Quoted in "Sunday Times Magazine" [16 September 1973]. Old friends are the great blessings of one's latter years. Half a word conveys one's meaning. They have memory of the same events, and have the same mode of thinking. I have young relations that may grow upon me, for my nature is affectionate, but can they grow old friends? My age forbids that. Still less can they grow companions. Is it friendship to explain half one says? One must relate the history of one's memory and ideas; and what is that to the young but old stories? --Horace Walpole (17171797) English writer and connoisseur. Quoted in Maturin M. Ballou _Treasury of Thought_ p. 190 [15th ed. 1894]. Be courteous to all, but intimate with few; and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation. --George Washington (17321799) American general and commander-in-chief of the colonial armies in the American Revolution [17751783] and first president of the United States [17891797]. Letter to his nephew Bushrod Washington, [15 January 1783]. We cherish our friends not for their ability to amuse us, but for ours to amuse them. --Evelyn Waugh (19031966) Engish novelist. Entry in Diary, as quoted in "Time" (mag.) [1973]. [Of George Bernard Shaw:] He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by all his friends. --Oscar Wilde (18541900) Anglo-Irish dramatist and poet. Quoted by W.B. Yeats in his 1891 review of Wilde's _Lord Arthur Savile's Crime and Other Stories_. - Skywalker: Your overconfidence is your weakness. Emperor: Your faith in your friends is yours. --"Return of the Jedi" [1983 film] Screenplay by Lawrence Kasdan & George Lucas. - You can pick your friends. You can pick your nose. But you can't pick your friend's nose. --anon. - Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. --anon. ----- amity [AM-uh-tee], noun: Friendship; friendly relations, especially between nations. camaraderie (noun) [kah-muh-'rah-duh-ree] Spirit of friendship, loyalty, warm fellowship. comity [KOM-uh-tee], noun: 1. A state of mutual harmony, friendship, and respect, especially between or among nations or people; civility. 2. The courteous recognition by one nation of the laws and institutions of another. 3. 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